Fair Trial

So today I continued my chat with my sexy stranger. At this point, he is just a friend. He is not a close friend so I can call him sexy. But, I think what I like about him is that I can talk to him. Something that people just can’t seem to do these days. We can’t talk to our neighbors next door or our neighbors in the bordering country or state. And, if we do, we form clans and that’s no way to live. I’d had a whole lot less trouble in my life if I could talk about things with people. So I hope in 2015, a lot of us can get free, open our mouthes and put our weapons down. 

Anyway, we got on the topic of giving in relationships (platonic or otherwise) and it wasn’t a debate but us simply giving our opinions. And, its rather funny how we got on the topic. He was happy that I was willing to talk to him again; that I felt safe to talk to him. And, I told him in not so many words that the state of our relationship depends on him. Not implying that I am an angel or can do no wrong but that I will stick with as long as you treat me good. It’s as simple as that.

So he went on to say that he believes things should be fifty/fifty. And, I totally agree with that. But, I think that in many cases, most people get the idea totally screwed up. So I proceeded to tell him that fifty/fifty doesn't always work especially when your not equally yolked. If you make 50k+ a year and I make 9k a year, were not going to be equally yolked. And, basically thats a lot to handle. 

And, I went on to say that, Your not going to appreciate what I bring to the table or respect what I have. Personally, I cherish the nothing that I have. I love the friends that I have and more. Not because it’s better than what some one else might have but because I worked so hard for it. So I am not so keen on someone criticizing or being unhappy with what I have or with my friends because those things are an extension of myself. And, I know older people or successful people have a hard time with dealing with certain things; change, etc. 

Yet in still, I think that things can be fifty/fifty among people if we can start out with talking and interacting. We can’t make to many assumptions of other people because they can do the same to us. And, what can they go off of, our actions and what next person has to say about us. All of which can be things that are lies, misinterpretations and to some others dismay, the truth. The same thing can be said for our interactions, if I reach out my hand to your face depending on your fear or trust, you might think that I am trying to punch you or doing something loving like wiping something off your face. But, if we can talk things would be so different. 

In closing, even though I have been so positive about the power of vocalization. I know that I have to be realistic. If someone else’s intentions aren’t good then talking let alone being seen can be the worst and last thing that you do. And, that right there let’s us know that some things have to change…..atleast in the people around me. Everybody wants to go to a hanging but nobody wants to go to the trial, where people can defend and stand up for themselves.